What I’ve been learning about racism
What does it mean for a coach like me to put anti-racism into practice in my work? Thinking through that question has led me to understand my own cultural identities differently.
Community safety from the inside out
What I learned from the 2020 uprising for justice in Minneapolis led me to discover oppressive policing where I least expected it: in my own mind. That discovery led me to the liberating model of community healing I use in my coaching today.
Join an Inner Community Writing Workshop
Inner Community Writing Workshops are for folks who want to explore our internal multiplicity in writing. In weekly online meetings, Workshop members support each other’s practice, develop our craft, and pursue healing and liberation in community. Learn more and sign up for the next Workshop here.
How IFS coaching works: an introduction in video clips
These quick video clips from a demo session show what IFS coaching can be like. Clear, easy-to-read explanations of the concepts in each clip show why the session goes the way it does.
Demo session 8: Planning for the week to come
A coach or therapist can help you make sense of your own inner world, but you’re the only person who can make the choice to pay attention. In this final moment in our demonstration, “Michelle” and I negotiate a daily practice of internal inquiry that feels doable for her. Do you think she’ll do it?
Demo session 7: Paying attention to inner wisdom
When we’re trying to heal hurting parts of ourselves, “slow is fast.” If we rush toward our pain too quickly, protective parts of us will redouble their efforts to keep the pain at bay. That’s why we insist on honoring every protective impulse as it appears — just as we do in this clip.
Demo session 6: Learning about positive intentions
In Internal Family Systems practice, we take it as given that every part of who you are is doing its very best to keep you alive and safe — but when parts of you are causing you pain, it’s hard to believe they mean well. Listen to how “Michelle” is wary of some of her parts.