Coaching

As a coach, I support other thoughtful grown-ups with kind hearts and complicated brains as they learn to communicate skillfully with every part of who they are.

Make peace with all of who you are.

Learn the skills of inner communication for healing and liberation.

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With some simple skills and a little practice, you can learn to harmonize all the conflicting thoughts, emotions, and perspectives inside your head. And when you transform your inner dialogue, you transform what it feels like to be you.

When all the “voices in your head” can communicate freely, everything changes — how you feel about yourself, how you respond in relationships, and how you show up in the world.

With the expertise of trained Internal Family Systems practitioner and the compassion of a fellow survivor, I’ll accompany you on your journey to making peace with every part of who you are.

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What clients say

“Wonderfully not like a therapist”

“I feel so much trust with you — you’re punctual, accountable, clear, present, in your own feels, and wonderfully not like a distant, removed therapist! You share an unending perspective and experience in PartsLand that utterly shifts my world view and view of self.”

Meghan Chao Smith, 2024

“Makes it feel safe”

“Coaching with Ash has been by far one of the most therapeutic and healing experiences of my life. For me, traditional therapy was never a real fit. I always felt like I could intellectualize and control the process way too much. It always felt impossible to let my guard down enough to actually deal with anything real. But Ash is so deeply empathetic and present in his guidance that … he makes it feel so safe to share.”

— I.B., 2022

The human mind can be a noisy place.

Most people talk to ourselves all the time — sometimes out loud, and constantly in our heads. These mental conversations, moment by moment and year after year, make up the internal community of you — diverse aspects of your unique personality, in constant dialogue with each other.

  • Some people’s inner communities are so harmonious and peaceful they don’t even notice them. (Or so I’ve heard.)
  • For other folks — especially those of us who’ve had experience of trauma or oppression — the “voices in our heads” can be so noisy, hostile, or confusing that they get in the way of our relationships, our work, and even our sense of self.

If the conversations that go on in your head are causing you trouble, I can sympathize. I felt that way too, for decades. So I’m speaking from experience when I tell you that the conversations in your head can change for the better.

For most of my life, my chaotic and distressing thoughts made me miserable.

I would do almost anything to avoid being “alone with myself.” (A small example: I never took a shower without the radio on.) Over the years, some healing practices helped me get some control over my inner dialogue, from A.A. to therapy to meditation to cannabis — but nothing ever made me feel truly safe in my own mind.

Then I learned a simple and powerful way to improve my inner dialogues: by taking them seriously. Through a therapeutic model called Internal Family Systems, or IFS, I found more healing and liberation than I ever suspected possible — simply by paying respectful attention to my own inner world. Now I help my clients find their own healing and liberation in the same way.

How I learned to harmonize the voices in my head

As I’ve experienced it in my own life, using partswork so well for inner healing and liberation because it’s so simple and intuitive to put into practice. Here’s how this whole deal worked for me:

  1. Listening to my inner dialogue. First on my own (with this book), then with professional support (from this amazing person), I learned to really listen to all the different parts of who I am — even the internal voices I didn’t like very much.
  2. Getting to know different parts of myself. With practice, I got to know all the different parts of myself — some I knew about, some very surprising — and they got to know me too. I learned about their stories, their true intentions, their relationships with each other, and the work they’ve been doing to help me get through life.
  3. Building internal community. And over time, with practice, my whole inner community has learned how to talk together in respectful, compassionate, and liberating ways.

The model itself was so intellectually fascinating and spiritually rewarding that I became a trained IFS practitioner myself. Now as a coach, I support my clients as they do all these things for themselves.

What to look forward to

Today, the “voices in my head” are my loving internal family, and we grow and evolve together with mutual respect and support. Every part of who I am knows that, as a community, we can face whatever life has in store. Together, we keep us safe.

How better internal communication feels

Today, the “voices in my head” feel like a loving chosen family — and we know that, together, we can face whatever life has in store for us. Together, we keep us safe. Harmonizing the “voices in your head” can help you feel more:

  • Calm, clear and confident. Mutual respect and support among the different parts of your personality lets you speak more clearly, consider things more calmly, and act more confidently in the world — even under pressure.
  • Courageous and connected. The united support of your whole inner team can gives you the courage to connect with or detach from other people and communities from a place of inner integrity.
  • Creative. When they feel a sense of inclusion and belonging, the diverse parts of your personality can generate ingenious solutions to difficult problems.
  • Curious. Your curiosity about your own internal world will make you more curious about the complexities of other people and systems.
  • Compassionate. Your love and kindness toward the most challenging parts of yourself will help you respond with compassion to the most challenging parts of other people.

If you want to feel better being all of who you are, I’m here to support you. Book your free first session right here.

Meanwhile, curious and skeptical parts of you are warmly welcome to peruse this FAQ, watch clips from a coaching session, take IFS for a test-drive on your own, and scope me out.